In the past the bond that a marage had was special. It was a bond like no other. It was made to with stand the test of time. Once marrages was formed because two people wanted to express the amount of love that they had for one another. A marrage was sopose to be a great union of great paportions. Back in 1963 marrage was greatly defined by a man named William Stephens. He stated that marriage was a social institution that publicly recognized social and intimate bonds. Even till this day that definition still stands steady and strong. Now hear is the reality of the matter. Yes his deffinition may still be the same, but the charectoristics of the word marrage, had drasticly made a change for the worst.
Let keep it real for a minute, may be back in the day a couple would marry becaouse they may have had true love for one another. Now in this pressent day of September 2011, the main reason why a coulp would get married is to survive the economic depression. I know a lot of my peers may have some disagreements with my statement but trust me when I say, there are vast amounts of logic to my statements.I agree with the functionalist views and opnions on how bad family has become.
Most of God willing will graduate from a distinguished college or a university praying to God that you find a decent paying job, am I right ok. Now after a couple of years down the line you are now interested in getting married. Off the top of my head, will you be interested in a person who is struggling in life, barely able to support him or herself. Or will you be attracted to that special some one who is swimming in a pool of debt. That persons credit score is sooooo bad, that they applied for a pay as you go phone planne and got “Denied”. Is that the kind of person that you will be looking to get married to in this day and age, “Hell NO”, will be your answer. Or are there still optumistic people out there who still believe in “LOVE”. If you ask a person to define the true definition of love and what dose it truly mean to love another indavidual, 10 out of 10 people dont even know what love is.
In my heart I honestly feel the due to our ongoing deteriorating ecomomy, has molded a poor discription of what a marrage is really about. Looking at some statiscs, about 12 to 15 years ago the average number of children being born into a family would be an average of four children in tottal to a house hold. Now due to the lack of financial capability, families are copping with the ability of only being able to afford one child. Saddly to say to number or childless families are growing by the number. But hear is the thing. Can you blam a couple for deciding not to even have children due to the unsteady economy.
I have a feeling that there is going to be a person who would deffianatly feel the opposite. So I woulld like to make a statement that will some what justify my statements. I read in the book that. One of the most basice functions of a union or a marrge is the distrubution of lador between a couple. Ok great, now lets talk about this in order to truly understand. You must first be able to comprehend the meaning of labor distubution . Labor distubution in a marrage is the sharing of “ALL” house hold “RESPONSSABILITIES”, which intitles food, clothing, shelter, and monthly bills. Ok now we all must ask our selves one very important question. In order for a couple to have a successful marrage what is the one thig that they will “NEED” to accuir so that all of there responssabilities will be meet, “Captial”. With out money how will a marriage, stand, so you honestly think that the love you have for your spouce will be enough to hold your marriage together. IF you think that then, you are in for a rude wakening. Because with out money you can not eat, then if you can not eat eventually you will starve and die. Then were is your love.
This is a culture shock that I feel that every one should be aware of. Marrage is not how it use to be 15 years ago, people marry now to survive that just my personal onion. Please feel free to comment.
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